Fool…

Masterful Mindsets ~ Don’t be a fool!

There are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isn’t true; the other is to refuse to believe what is true. – Soren Kierkegaard

Question: 

Are you being honest with yourself about your life? How often do you lie to yourself in order to keep playing small? When you tell a little lie, who do you think you’re really fooling?

Action Challenge:

My family and I like to have fun on April Fool’s Day… we’ve been known to come up with some pretty great pranks. But what if every day was All Fools’ Day (as it was originally called)? Probably not such a great idea. It would no doubt result in some unhappy and frustrated people.

What about when you are being fooled on a regular basis, either by believing something that isn’t true or refusing to believe what is? That isn’t any fun at all… And it is detrimental to being able to live your best life as your best self.

The interesting thing is that more times then not, we lie to ourselves more than we would ever allow anyone else to lie to us. I mean think about it, if you had a friend who constantly lied to you, would you still be friends with them? No way! Yet, we keep lying and believing our own lies or we refuse to believe what is true.

Let’s get honest… How often do you tell yourself little lies such as:

I’ll do it later – when the truth is, you know you’ll never get “it” done. Like for example, that book you’ve been meaning to write. Or that person you want to confront about how disrespectful they treat you.

I’ll start tomorrow – only to keep putting off starting for another day, week, year, etc. Like that exercise program or the healthy eating habits you’ve been planning to start.

I don’t have time – the reality is, you aren’t making it a priority. Let’s face it, you probably waste at least 20 minutes a day deleting junk mail from your inbox. Did you know that in a year, those 20 minutes add up to about 5 full days? (Yes, 5 full 24 hour days.) What could you do with that time? Maybe, quit using “I don’t have time.” as an excuse and start making what’s important a real priority.

The list could go on and on… They just don’t understand. Nothing will ever change. I don’t really have a problem. (Hello Denial!) Any sound familiar?

Maybe the biggest lie of all, the one that is really to blame for our fool heartedness is, “I’m not good enough!” Sure, you might not say it in those exact words. But let’s face it, that lie is probably the lie that trips you up more than any other.

It’s a mean cruel prank that your ego plays on you every time you are about to jump out of your comfort zone and do something new, scary or hard. Now don’t get me wrong, it’s the ego’s job to protect us but it will do so, by any means. Which includes, allowing you to lie to yourself or at the very least, believe what isn’t true.

The truth is – You were given everything you need to be great! You are the only one holding yourself back from that. Sure, it might require effort or get a little uncomfortable to challenge yourself to be your best, but you can do it – if you choose. And I can tell you that more times than not, the reward is so worth it. Don’t you think it’s time to stop being a fool?

My challenge to you is to stop lying to yourself and start believing the truth.

Here are some steps to help you begin being honest with yourself:

1. Admit It – Until you admit that you are lying to yourself, nothing will change. I mean after all; the lying is a defense mechanism. If it wasn’t, then you wouldn’t do it. So, admit that you haven’t been being honest with yourself.
2. Confront It – Start with looking for the truth you’ve been ignoring with an objective, non-judgmental eye. What is going on at a deeper level for you? It’s time to confront what you are doing and the real reasons for doing it so that you can find the right solution for change.
3. Commit To The Truth – Draw your line in the sand. It’s time to quit accepting the lies. And commit to being honest with yourself. That is really the only way you will be able to live your best life. Like truly – your best life. It’s the difference between living a life that’s okay or fine and a life that is charged and extraordinary.
4. Take Action Towards Change – Once you are committed to being honest and believing in your truth, you can start taking real action towards change and transformation. You can start becoming your best true you!
5. Get Support – I know that having the courage to change can be difficult and I’m not promising that change is always going to be easy. But when you are willing to admit you need help, help is always there. You just have to ask. And if you don’t know anyone you could or would ask, then hire a coach. You don’t have to go it alone and it is always easier when you have support.

It’s time to start believing what IS true and stop lying to yourself. It’s time to start living your best life and being your best true you. But that will only happen when you stop lying to yourself and start living in truth!

Sign up for a free Strategy Session with me and let me help you step into your truth so you can start living your best life and being your best self.

***Then be sure to join me tomorrow, Tuesday, April 2nd at 11am PT/2pm ET for Facebook Live on my Facebook Biz Page: Coach Michelle Weimer. I’ll be sharing more about how to stop playing the fool in your own life. And start living your truth!