As you know this month we are talking about the things that scare us and how to have courage. And this week in particular, is about the fear of judgment. If you missed last week’s post “Mammos Aren’t Monsters” be sure you check it out. Otherwise, click the image above to watch this week’s video or read on…

Fear of Judgement is an interesting thing because as this week’s thought states, fear of judgement grows internally when we are our own worst critics. As the monstrous critic inside grows, so does the fear of external judgement by others.

Makes perfect sense, right? Of course, you will be afraid of other people judging you because you don’t even like yourself, what you’re doing or how you’re showing up in the world. You’re critical of yourself so you expect others to be critical of you as well. You judge yourself harshly so you expect that others will too. Therefore, that fear of judgement grows and grows.

The other way that fear of judgement grows is when we are quick to judge others. If you are a very judgmental person then it’s time for you to really check that from here on out. Because when you are judgmental all the time, it puts the thought in your head that if you are judging others all the time then others are probably judging you all the time. The more you judge, the more you assume others are judging you. And again, the fear of judgement grows.

The reality is, it doesn’t happen as often as you might think it does. In general, people are kind. People want to see you succeed. And people are into their own fears of judgement. So if you find that you judge a lot – either being critical and harsh in judging yourself and/or being critical and judgmental of others, then this week’s challenge is going to be perfect for you…

My challenge for you is to create a “Non-Judgement Policy” for yourself. What this means is – no more judgement (on yourself or others)!

Be in observation of your thoughts. Be very aware of what you’re thinking and catch yourself when you are having critical thoughts about yourself or others.  Then either shift the thought by making a conscious effort to change it to something kind or positive. Or let the thought go completely. Don’t go into judgement at all. Just stop the thought! Stop the judgement!

Judgement doesn’t serve us in any way, shape or form – either judging ourselves and being harsh or critical of ourselves or judging and being critical of others.

So commit to creating a non-judgement policy and stop the judgment. When you start being less critical and instead are kinder to yourself and less judgmental of others, you’ll be surprised at how that takes the fear of judgement away.

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